distracted

Before you scold yourself for the distractions, it might be worth asking -- are those "distractions," in fact, the very things that give you life?

a sort of cook

"There is the 'do-it-and-dust-it' cook, who does it purely to get something on the table with which to fill the belly, and then there is the one who takes delight in unfolding a cabbage leaf by leaf, rubbing his or her hands over the rough skin of a russet apple, or sniffing a freshly cut lemon. The person who finds satisfaction in choosing the right knife and picking the right pot, who enjoys the scent of ingredients and the feel of food in his or her hands. Chopping, slicing, stirring, tasting, seasoning all become acts of contentment rather than chores to be hurried through."

- Nigel Slater in Tender

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Celebrating that decision to splurge 

on a few "unnecessary" items.

market loot

ease up

Yes, you'll have to choose a few expectations to ease up on.

Show up to the party with something store-bought.
Drive around a dirty car for a few extra days.
Wear the outfit that absolutely does not say Anthropologie model.
Accept the reality that some food may go to waste.
Fail to research the most responsible, eco-friendly version of the product.
Leave early. Show up late.

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capacity

You may be an exceptional friend
who makes intentional conversations a priority
while failing to feed the homeless.

You may spend more to support
responsible farms and influence food politics
while failing to give to many charities.

You may invest time and energy
in being present with your family more fully
while failing to become a local volunteer.

All these things are good and well, my dear.
The "failing" really isn't failing at all.
It's vital decision-making.

You cannot do it all.
That expectation to meet every need?
That isn't your role here... not at all.